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How to Manage Trauma with Life Coaching


Managing Trauma with Life Coaching
Surprising numbers of people have the misfortune of experiencing various traumas in their lives.  Why or how this happens is very individual, yet what we all face is the reality of getting on with life afterwards.
There is no excusing or hiding from the tremendous and unique range of emotions you may be facing after a trauma, and there is no expectation that anyone else can totally understand how you feel at that moment.  Even if someone has had a similar experience in the past, theirs is now in the past and they will have moved on.
Tips on managing trauma and starting your journey to a new and better place:
– Find a few trusted people you can talk to, this may be only one person and that is fine.  Someone who will be compassionate, understanding, without criticising, judging or lecturing you.  Someone who has the capacity to listen to you, to sympathise, without interruption, without telling you what to do or what you should have done.
– Seek out a professional who you can work with on a regular basis, both from a financial and logistical stand point; someone who is experienced in your field and who knows how to work this particular type of trauma; someone who can be a councillor, guide and possibly even a mentor.  Someone you feel you can grow to trust and use to move yourself forward with time.
– Take care of yourself; give yourself time to heal, this may be physically and / or emotionally.  Traumas can be anything from loss of someone we love, a terrible accident, a difficult physical experience and lots more.  No two experiences are the same and each one of us will handle the situation we have experienced totally differently.  Therefore, be more easy on yourself, if you are able to cope with less than usual, or if you are finding you are not as efficient or organised as usual, allow this to be.  Rest more, pamper yourself if you can, let your mind swith off more if you can; do whatever you need to just be without the old pressures that you would normally have put on yourself in the past.
– Get away for a short break if you can; any change of scene is helpful to clear and ease the mind.  This could be a trip to a different town or city, something that clearly contrasts with where you live; maybe the countryside or the sea-side, somewhere more green or more busy to what you usually do.  Something that is totally different so that you are able to disconnect for a while from those things that you associate with your normal life routine and therefore, possibly with the cause or effect of the traumatic experience.
– Be sad, be down and cry if you need to; there is huge value in allowing ourselves to express what we feel.  Some of us were brought up in environments that did not encourage displays of emotion.  When we have had an unusual and unexpected experience, the need to be who we are and feel what we are feeling is very much a part of healing ourselves and is therefore necessary.  You will not cry or be down forever, emotions are non-permanent and constantly changing, so just as one moment you may feel sad, moments later you may feel calm or happy again.  This is the nature of emotions.
There is a lot you can do if you take the approach that this has happened, and you can move on, move forward from this point in your life… allow yourself time, ….  (quote about healing with time??)

Surprising numbers of people have the misfortune of experiencing various traumas in their lives.  Why or how this happens is very individual, yet what we all face is the reality of getting on with life afterwards.  Coaching focuses on moving forward in life and life coaching can help move past this experience to a better place.

There is no excusing or hiding from the tremendous and unique range of emotions you may be facing after a trauma, and there is no expectation that anyone else can totally understand how you feel at that moment; traumas are so powerful that working with a life coach is only relevant if you are ready to move forward.  Even if someone has had a similar experience in the past, theirs is now in the past and they will have moved on.

Here are some life coaching tips on managing trauma and starting your journey to a new and better place:

  • Find a few trusted people you can talk to, this may be only one person and that is fine.  Someone who will be compassionate, understanding, without criticising, judging or lecturing you.  Someone who has the capacity to listen to you, to sympathise, without interruption, without telling you what to do or what you should have done.
  • Seek out a professional who you can work with on a regular basis, both from a financial and logistical stand point; someone who is experienced in your field and who knows how to work this particular type of trauma; someone who can be a counsellor, guide and possibly even a mentor.  Someone you feel you can grow to trust and use to move yourself forward with time.
  • Take care of yourself; give yourself time to heal, this may be physically and / or emotionally.  Traumas can be anything from loss of someone we love, a terrible accident, a difficult physical experience and lots more.  No two experiences are the same and each one of us will handle the situation we have experienced totally differently.  Therefore, be more easy on yourself, if you are able to cope with less than usual, or if you are finding you are not as efficient or organised as usual, allow this to be.  Rest more, pamper yourself if you can, let your mind swith off more if you can; do whatever you need to just be without the old pressures that you would normally have put on yourself in the past.
  • Get away for a short break if you can; any change of scene is helpful to clear and ease the mind.  This could be a trip to a different town or city, something that clearly contrasts with where you live; maybe the countryside or the sea-side, somewhere more green or more busy to what you usually do.  Something that is totally different so that you are able to disconnect for a while from those things that you associate with your normal life routine and therefore, possibly with the cause or effect of the traumatic experience.
  • Be sad, be down and cry if you need to; there is huge value in allowing ourselves to express what we feel.  Some of us were brought up in environments that did not encourage displays of emotion.  When we have had an unusual and unexpected experience, the need to be who we are and feel what we are feeling is very much a part of healing ourselves and is therefore necessary.  You will not cry or be down forever, emotions are non-permanent and constantly changing, so just as one moment you may feel sad, moments later you may feel calm or happy again.  This is the nature of emotions.

There is a lot you can do whether or not you work with a life coach, if you chose to take the approach that this has happened, and you can move on, move forward from this point in your life… allow yourself time…

All the best,

Natalie Dee
London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.


Posted in Life Coaching, Self Confidence on September 18, 2009

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