Life coach and NLP practitioner Natalie Dee

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Life Coach and NLP practitioner Natalie Dee

Look Within

This is the first blog of two dedicated to my new friend, Peter.

When clients come to me to talk about relationships, they often say something along the lines of: “I want someone to love me.”  Or “I want to meet someone to share my life with, who will take care of me.”  Yet every relationship they’ve had has ended up in the same way, with them being alone and single.

What we fail to realise is that we cannot gain from the outside what we don’t already have inside ourselves.

If you want to be loved, love yourself first.

If you want to be taken care of, take care of yourself first.

How?  In the simplest form, recognise and acknowledge where you do already have this in your life and do for your yourself what you would wish from your partner; be kind, compassionate, loving, caring, attentive to yourself and your own needs.

If you look back at your past relationships you’ll probably find that you naturally did this for your partner(s), and often it was not reciprocated, hence you still perceive yourself as lacking and therefore, are still seeking.

When you reach a point where you feel fulfilled and satisfied with yourself by yourself, you will be in a clearer space to meet the right person for you; you will no longer “demand” from them to “do” for you; you will be two adults meeting on an equal plane.

Female? 40-something? Read this client’s compelling story: Being Vulnerable

All the best,

Natalie Dee
London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as NLP,  EFTand Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career. Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

Posted in Life Coaching, Performance, Relationships on April 28, 2011

5 comments on this topic

  1. Peter says:

    You cannot receive from the outside what you don’t have already inside of yourself or with other words whatever you experience or whoever has an impact on you represents who you actually are 😉 Thank Natalie

    1. NatalieD says:

      Thank you, I take the compliment, and hope that you do too.


      1. Peter says:

        Lets see what our acquaintance qualifies for both of us 🙂

        1. NatalieD says:

          Indeed, as in all cases, the journey is the adventure 🙂

          1. Sanne says:

            Unbelievable how well-written and informative this was.

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