Life coach and NLP practitioner Natalie Dee

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Choices vs Shoulds

Our Choices vs ShouldsWhat is the difference between “choices” and “shoulds”?

Have you ever noticed how often people use the word “should” when they talk about things they are doing, aspects of their lives, family commitments, work and even social life?

I hear it all the time, and when I do I get a sense that this is not something the person wants to be doing, because “should” sounds like it’s a “have to”, a “must”, rather than a desire.

Who wants to do a “have to”?!

“Should” is authoritative, and it reflects a lack of choice; it’s where we follow what someone else, somewhere, sometime told us how it ought to be, it’s a form of lack of control, lack of own decision making, therefore lack of choice.

Notice your language, notice what you want to do, what you choose to do, even if these “to dos” are part of your life commitments, your routine, even if they are mundane.

Take responsibility for those things you choose to do in your life right now, and make them a “choice” not a “should”.

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All the best,

Natalie Dee
London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as NLPEFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

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Posted in communication, Life Coaching, Motivational, Personal Growth on June 13, 2011

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