Life coach and NLP practitioner Natalie Dee

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How to Deal With Passive Aggressive People Easily

Passive aggressive people can be very difficult to deal with, but this doesn’t mean it’s impossible to cope with this personality type. Whether it is a relative a friend or a colleague that possesses this personality follow some of the tips below to appropriately live, work or be around this type of person.

My first tip is to simply avoid any kind of power struggle as you will never win. As I’m sure you are aware an argument, heated debate or conflict of interests can lead to a complete locking of horns where you are left feeling frustrated and at a loss over and over again. If an argument can’t be avoided or other discussion begins to get a little heated, always try to remain calm especially when you speak and demonstrate this with a relaxed and polite tone of voice. Also try to see the argument from their point of view and let them know that you understand their opinion, this can really help soothe matters and end any aggressive moments quickly.

Always try to be the best communicator that you can be when talking with someone. Ask them how they would solve a problem or how they would improve a situation. By doing this you are allowing them to voice their opinions without them having to shout you down first, it’s similar to you giving someone space when they need it. Dance with them don’t fight them!

When it comes to negative or even hurtful comments it’s important that you continue to remain calm, consistent and respond only with positive comments yourself. For every negative comment an aggressive person makes respond with 2 positive comments.

Sometimes passive aggressive people can respond with more intensity than needed, even to a simple suggestion or constructive advice. To avoid this problem try not to bring in your own judgements or evaluations. Instead talk about the impact a situation is having on other people and the impact it’s having on you. This way you’re not accusing anyone of any wrong doing but merely outlining what’s happening and the effects that are occurring.

A great tip to deal with such people either at home or at work is to give tasks that are straightforward and not over complicated. These can be tasks that you know they are good at and tasks you know they will succeed at, allowing them to feel successful and positive as much as possible. Doing this will allow all people involved to avoid as much confrontation and negativity as possible.

Natalie Dee
NLP, Confidence Coaching, Life Coaching London

Life Coach London

Posted in Self Improvement on October 15, 2011

2 comments on this topic

  1. Nana says:

    I suffer from this problem and sometimes i feel like i cannt breath from frustration besbecause my husband always try to treat me as something he owns.
    How could i get out the vicious circle of my husband possession and aggression and have dependent life and he respect me?

    1. RichR says:

      Nana, I think this is the perfect time for you to contact Natalie. Check out this page for her recent offer

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