Life Coaching Tips
Juggling Time – AQR Worshop from November 2010
ACHIEVING GOALS: Do you achieve your goals?
If you find yourself often doing things for others that you really don’t want to do, instead of reacting by default, you should give yourself the opportunity to respond from choice.
Before committing to do the task requested, ask yourself: do I really want to do this? If the answer is “yes” then go ahead, but if the answer is “no” then either say so, or discuss an alternative option.
Learn to use this method regularly and you’ll find that you’ll be more in charge of your life and your decisions, and this will help build up your own sense of self-worth.
What we focus on, we move towards.
Be very clear about your goals, write them down, read and re-read them to yourself on a daily basis. Change, tweak and update them according to what you want as time goes by.
Successful people who achieve their goals do so because they are very clear about what they want; they talk about and visualise their goals constantly; they think about their goals and focus on them again and again.
You can easily do the same.
SOCIAL STRESS: Do you fear meeting and talking to other people?
If you find yourself often doing things for others that you really don’t want to do, instead of reacting by default, you should give yourself the opportunity to respond from choice.
Before committing to do the task requested, ask yourself: do I really want to do this? If the answer is “yes” then go ahead, but if the answer is “no” then either say so, or discuss an alternative option.
Learn to use this method regularly and you’ll find that you’ll be more in charge of your life and your decisions, and this will help build up your own sense of self-worth.
Many people fear being in social situations; they feel self-conscious and uncomfortable and don’t know what to say or what to do. Often they fear they are being judged by the other people in the social setting they find themselves in.
A simple solution is to practice the following technique: when you meet other people, think of two things you really like about them, this could be their eyes, face, smile, colour of their shirt, shoes, watch – anything at all…
In this way, your focus will change; your focus will be on the other person and not on yourself.
Practice this with strangers in the street over the next few weeks (remember, it’s only your thoughts that you are dealing with, no-one knows what’s going on in your mind), and you will notice how easily you manage yourself in social situations and feel better about them overall.
SELF-WORTH: Do you have a low sense of self-worth?
If you find yourself often doing things for others that you really don’t want to do, instead of reacting by default, you should give yourself the opportunity to respond from choice.
Before committing to do the task requested, ask yourself: do I really want to do this? If the answer is “yes” then go ahead, but if the answer is “no” then either say so, or discuss an alternative option.
Learn to use this method regularly and you’ll find that you’ll be more in charge of your life and your decisions, and this will help build up your own sense of self-worth.
If you find yourself often doing things for others that you really don’t want to do, instead of reacting by default, you should give yourself the opportunity to respond from choice.
Before committing to do the task requested, ask yourself: do I really want to do this? If the answer is “yes” then go ahead, but if the answer is “no” then either say so, or discuss an alternative option.
Learn to use this method regularly and you’ll find that you’ll be more in charge of your life and your decisions, and this will help build up your own sense of self-worth.
CONFIDENCE: Do you think you lack confidence?
Sometimes people think that they lack confidence when often they are in situations they dislike or find uncomfortable.
Be honest with yourself and avoid telling yourself that you lack confidence when that isn’t really the case.
You’ll find that you’re more confident in many more situations, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the results.
ASSERTIVENESS: Do you find it hard to say “no” or to stand up for yourself?
Start of by thinking about what you would say in the same situation in you respected yourself more or others respected you, which in truth, they probably do.
Then, in easier and more comfortable situations, start using these more assertive phrases. You’ll find it easier than you think.
Do this gradually but regularly. Eventually it’ll come naturally.
All the best,
Natalie Dee
London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner
Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career. Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.
