Look Within

This is the first blog of two dedicated to my new friend, Peter.

When clients come to me to talk about relationships, they often say something along the lines of: “I want someone to love me.”  Or “I want to meet someone to share my life with, who will take care of me.”  Yet every relationship they’ve had has ended up in the same way, with them being alone and single.

What we fail to realise is that we cannot gain from the outside what we don’t already have inside ourselves.

If you want to be loved, love yourself first.

If you want to be taken care of, take care of yourself first.

How?  In the simplest form, recognise and acknowledge where you do already have this in your life and do for your yourself what you would wish from your partner; be kind, compassionate, loving, caring, attentive to yourself and your own needs.

If you look back at your past relationships you’ll probably find that you naturally did this for your partner(s), and often it was not reciprocated, hence you still perceive yourself as lacking and therefore, are still seeking.

When you reach a point where you feel fulfilled and satisfied with yourself by yourself, you will be in a clearer space to meet the right person for you; you will no longer “demand” from them to “do” for you; you will be two adults meeting on an equal plane.

Female? 40-something? Read this client’s compelling story: Being Vulnerable