Confidence Over 40

Mid life crisis, over the hill, past it, we have all heard them right? Phrases and sayings like this seem to be 10 a penny and you only have to spend five minutes watching or reading any type of modern-day media to be sucked into the trap that if you’re not 25, married, successful and world-famous then you’re simply way behind in life and might as well quit now.

In fact just yesterday I heard movie star and 41-year-old Jennifer Aniston described as the older woman! The older woman? You have to be kidding me! Here’s a Hollywood actress who is stunningly beautiful, incredibly successful and appears to be driving her career onwards and upwards at every opportunity. Yet at 41 our low IQ’d media refers to her as an older woman.

Is there any wonder that people in their 40s or even approaching their 40s are losing their confidence and have low self-esteem? Through years of media influence and bad social judgement we become conditioned to thinking that if we don’t have all we want by the time we reach our 40s then something seriously wrong.

In fact this type of conditioning and mindset couldn’t be further from the truth. Your 40s should be the age where you grow more confident, where you find inner peace, where you can apply years of knowledge and experience to improve your own life and grow ever confident.

With 40 years or more life experience under your belt you do have a huge amount of wisdom and information stored in your magnificent grey matter. All you need to do is to chip away at the years of negative conditioning and mindset that will allow you to realise your true inner power.

Of course this is easier said than done and you may need to work with a professional confidence coach to guide you strategically and effectively through this process. But there are some simple things that you can do today that will help you change your mindset and grow more confident whether you are in your 40s, 50s, 60s or beyond!

Here’s my top tip of something you can do today – stop comparing yourself to other people and compare yourself only to yourself. For example if you are a successful business person and you compared your current position to that of five years ago, have you made progress? More than likely you have, you have been improving and you have been progressing. Take pride in this and be confident in your achievements.

Under no circumstances should you compare your business career to someone else. I mean who could you compare yourself to? Your colleague? Why stop there, your boss? No, let’s go a little higher, let’s compare ourselves to Donald Trump? Mogul Trump has a completely different background, life and career to you, as do your closest colleagues. Comparing yourself to anybody who is weaker or greater than you will only give you a false report as to who you are and a false report on your own progress.

Only look at yourself for comparisons and be confident in your progress whether it be health, business or personal achievements.

Posted in Self Confidence on July 25, 2011